The Swedish welfare society tend to idealize independent and active citizens, in turn pressuring people to care for themselves even when help is needed, a troublesome effect of neo-liberal tendencies that needs to be acknowledged. The purpose with this thesis is therefor to scrutinize the intersection of age and gender through the subjective experience of aging, as an alternative to homogenous representations of “elderly” as a gender-neutral group, concealing the unequal and gendered dimensions of aging. This is a micro-level study focusing on four women in the age of 78-90, as an attempt to explore how delimitations of aging are negotiated and (in)dependency upheld through informal strategies. The analyse illustrates that aging is gendered, further suggesting that it is crucial to not neglect and overlook the important supportive care that women in upper ages provide for themselves and others, in an everyday context.